When you come across a girl that you like and you finally manage to get an appointment with her, you feel a sense of victory, but you’re already starting to get a sense of fear in your belly by asking yourself a few questions:
- How do you impress the girl on the first date? What mistakes should be avoided? And how do you stand out from the other guys she’s already met?
This is what we are going to discuss in this article so that you won’t be afraid of your first appointments!
Impressing a girl: the basics
The first date is a significant step in a romantic relationship, hence the interest not to screw it up. Especially when you’re trying to impress a girl the very first time. And the first mistake to avoid is to start on hyper classic and expected plans, not to say crappy, like just proposing a coffee, or even worse propose a movie; then this is the top of the bad plans!
Because you are going to spend 2 hours in a dark room where you are not going to talk to each other or have emotional connection or contact, and if the film is bad then, the lady is going to associate that bad time spent with you with the relationship that you might have, which is not at all good. As for the coffee, it’s slightly better than the cinema, but again it’s a classic plan and there are probably two out of three men who have already offered this girl a coffee for a first date.
But you can use this card by changing some settings, and what you can offer is to see yourself next to a coffee shop (a Starbucks for example) and have a coffee to take away. I’m a big coffee fan, I drink three or four a day, and what I do is I set the girl up in front of a coffee shop and I offer to have a little latte or a Cappuccino and we’ll walk after for the plan we’re gonna make. And among the plans, I propose for a first date it is to go to a museum, to go to an exhibition, to attend a cooking class, A Dance or yoga class, the key word here for a first date is activity!
You have to propose an activity for your first date, and this is the best way to impress a girl. :
You’re going to stand out from the rest of the men who came up with classic designs. The idea of the first date, in general, is to keep the contact light and tease a little bit by increasing the level of interest of this girl that interests you. The first date should never be some kind of Ultimate Seduction operation.
You don’t have to stress and start asking yourself a lot of questions by putting pressure on you; you just have to understand that the first date is a first step to move on to 2nd, 3rd, 4th, etc. Remember that you must never stress or hurry, even if it often happens that the girl cancels this first appointment for a given reason, you must not get upset or that you are saying inappropriate words (which would be completely stupid on your part).
It’s just a date and you have to admit that it’s nothing at all, you didn’t win the lottery or lose the chance of your life, hence the interest to try to have a good time and have fun in the first place. For this reason, it is necessary to focus on interesting and fun activities at the same time, such as bowling, karaoke and even karting to make a small competition and launch challenges. So you can take the opportunity to extend the good times you live with the girl by launching a challenge of the kind: the one who loses pays for the dinner or the restaurant later!
So the idea is to create three dates in one, quite naturally, all subtly:
- Meet in front of the coffee
- Walking to your main activity
- And maybe a simple little dinner in between as a bonus.
So, to make your first date a success, you must respect the following rules: :
- No stress
- Not too much spending money (which puts too much pressure on the girl who might think you just want to buy her admiration))
The goal of the first date is to get a second date, and that’s where you should not miss your opportunity because if the girl agrees to see you again, it’s because she’s probably super interested.
So we have to think that the idea behind this first date that you made with this girl is to increase her level of interest by conveying a message to her that you’re cool, that you don’t expect anything at all and that you just want to have a nice time that will allow you to get to know each other.